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It looks like I need to put some clarification on here for some reason. I'm speaking in general terms about society as usual, not anyone in particular.
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Yesterday marked the end of a chapter in both of our lives, and today starts anew. Things like this are never easy to deal with, but what fun is life without the trials and tribulations that give it character? I'm not sure if I ever expected things to turn out this way, but in the
back of my mind I realize that it's always a possibility in any relationship.
It's interesting to see how people handle ending a relationship. I suppose the most common thing to do is to go your separate ways, and live life thinking (or hoping) that you will never run into that person again. Why do people do this? I guess it makes sense that for some people to get over someone, sometimes you need to stop talking to and seeing that person. I question if people do this because it's what we view in society as what you're 'supposed to do', instead of doing what they want to do. Why fight how you feel on the inside?
Maybe I'm just an exception to the rule, which really shouldn't be a surprise since I always get the feeling that I don't always view life from the same perspective as most people. I have been through breakups in the past, and of course they're never usually fun, but they have also all been very different. The one thing in common that I've experienced is that I don't get the sudden urge and desire to shut the doors to my world from my former significant other. Instead of running from what just happened, I feel the desire to boldly face it on a daily basis to reiterate the decision that was just made, regardless if it was amicable or not. Why should I have to run from my problems? Is this even a problem? Why do we naturally choose to run away from things in life instead of addressing them directly? It's just too hard for some of us to stare an unfortunate truth in the face and deal with it directly, so we just run away from it, much like our friend Forrest Gump. Sure his life turned out to get better after all that running, but keep in mind that was also a movie. :)
I'm not perfect, and I don't directly address all of the issues that come up in my life, but I am perfectly okay with and capable of maintaining civility in a post-breakup apocalyptic world. Feelings are uneasy on both sides, especially knowing that what once was will never be again, but that's the reality of the situation and it will remain self-evident for the rest of your lives. The feelings that you have for someone will not just completely disappear after an extended period of time of ignoring them. I've experienced this first hand on several occasions after seeing someone I dated sometime after the relationship was over. I think it's hard to lose that feeling of being 'connected' to that person, especially if you were friends before. It's hard to look someone who knew so much about you in the eye and to try to treat them as just another friend.
Of course there are always caveats to this situation, especially those tumultuous relationships that end in disaster, but I really wonder how many end that way. From my personal experience, even the worst of my relationships have not had terrible breakups. Yes, I've been hurt like no other in the past, but those feelings didn't make me never want to see the person ever again, no matter how hurt I was.
It's difficult now, but things will always get better as long as you realize that it's not the end of the world; it's a new beginning.
'Do not go where the path may lead; go instead where there is no path and leave a trail'
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